We humans do lean towards worry. We also tend to think we are expressing love for someone when we tell them how worried we are about them.
Meanwhile, worry is a force of destruction. We have 2 driving forces in this world, Love or fear. Many great teachers along the way all state this. Great teachers have also stated that what you put your mind on grows.
So let's put those 2 ideas together for a moment. If what you put your mind on grows, or gets bigger, then when your mind is thinking that someone isn't well, or is in a bad situation, or can't take care of themself - your worry can get bigger.
If you believe someone can't take care of themself - you will begin to collect evidence to PROVE yourself right! YIKES! That thought reverberates out into the universe wether you know it or not - and, if the person you're so worried about has a tendency to want to please you - they unconsciously begin to believe you're right and hand you the evidence to make you right -so, right there, your worry begins to grow exponentially!
We say this to the people we love! LOVE? This is NOT the energy of love - its fear. We fear that the person can't take care of them self & we fear that they won't need us anymore if they could take care of themself! To go a deeper layer, we fear being alone, we fear we are about to lose them.
Love on the other hand looks at the same person, same situation and says, I believe in you - I know you can do this! Love, reminds you, that it's not about YOU. I'm sure you've all heard the saying - if you love them, let them go. It's not about them coming back to you, it's about you feeling safe and secured that you are loved and not putting that person in charge of your feelings. LOVE, can expand exponentially too - we just haven't been taught how to do this in an effective and constructive way -
Worry is destructive, it constricts the heart, and belief system. Yes someone may be in a tough situation, but that is the moment, the opportunity to view them through eyes of trust, of LOVE, believing they are exactly where they are meant to be - it is their moment to learn, to choose, to be empowered and worry can snuff out a spark quicker than you can say the word, worry. It's also an opportunity to recognize what needs to be done to actually help, instead of enable.
If you find yourself worrying, I invite you to rethink your motives, your intentions and ask yourself why you believe they are failing.
I do understand that there are people who are out there, losing their battle with drugs, alcohol or even disease. It's like they gave up, maybe they have & who knows why. I personally feel like the people in my life who appear to have failed, never being able to recover, are some of my best teachers.
They have taught me that - I don't know what their purpose or potential is/was, - that maybe they were braver than I could have ever imagined, agreeing to a soul contract that made them look like the bad guy, to help the ones waking up remember what compassion and forgiveness are - to learn how to trust instead of blame. Maybe, they were there to break you - break you open.
I invite you today, to view someone you worry about through a different lens, a different perspective. Knowing, that maybe you don't know. I invite you today to recognize that worry is a driving force of fear and the believing in someone - is the driving force of Love.
May today, be the day, you shift gears. May today be the day Love takes the reins.
I believe in you!