We label, categorize, file, organize and judge - all to help us feel normal (or safe)
For the person who speaks with passion, seemingly uncontrollable - we deem crazy.
For the person, who speaks uncensored truth - we deem abnormal
For the person who combines passion with uncensored truth - we medicate
For the person uncontainable - we judge, exile, shred their character and try to discredit them. We try to trap them into the blame game, distract them from their purpose, and tempt them with hate hoping they cave.
We do this just so we can feel normal.
Meanwhile, has it truly become normalized to lie? It has! Think about this for a moment - how many of your friends that you have right now, would stand by your side if you suddenly lost the ability to lie? Seriously, if every thing that came out of your mouth was uncensored, raw and true, social events would become incredibly awkward. People would avoid you like a plague and no, no you wouldn't feel like you belong . If you're a child, you may be diagnosed with an illness, syndrome or disease. One of the 'symptoms of Aspergers is 'FAILURE to develop friendships' - So now, not only do you feel like you don't belong, but let's add on failure too! Greta Thunberg has recently brought Aspergers into the Light. As I've read different stories about her and the movement surrounding her - I have been in awe as to how uncomfortable truth makes people, especially the ones who think they are in powerful positions, feel. I also find it interesting how they are lashing out at her, and trying to discredit what she is saying by throwing labels around, trying desperately to normalize what is happening. Which brings me right back to my point, to feel normal, you need to lie - period.
is being different
Is owning your unique qualities -
is not allowing ANYONE to make you feel so ashamed of yourself that you lie.
What has become normalized, to make us believe we need to betray ourself and lie, is fear. Somewhere we have allowed fear to become our normal state of being. We have distorted our natural instinct to detect a dangerous situation. And, now, we find most of our daily lives to be dangerous - if not, why lie? Seriously, if you feel safe - you wouldn't lie, not even to yourself. And now, our bodies have become addicted to adrenaline, we continually collect evidence we are in a dangerous situations, signaling to produce more adrenaline. So much so, that now, the more we lie, the more dangerous it is to even speak. You might get caught in your own web of lies! So now the mere, simple, mundane act of speaking has become a fear provoking experience. (and feeds the addiction)
What is normal to the Spider, is chaos to the fly.
We have become both the spider and the fly - we weave our own webs, and then feel terrified when we get caught up in it. We feel terrified to act because of webs all around us that we can get caught in. The need to label and categorize events to normalize them, doesn't serve anything except our own limiting beliefs. These limiting beliefs make us THINK we are safe. However, it doesn't actually help us FEEL safe. Simply put, lies that we tell ourself actually create the exact opposite of feeling safe, even if they have become normalized.
Once you find your truth, your voice, your integrity, once you feel safe to be honest with yourself - you can recognize the webs from others and navigate the normalized traps of fear. No one said it's easy - but we are designed to do hard things! Accept who you are designed to be, own it, live it and feel the freedom of passion supplying your service to humanity.
May you feel safe to live your normal!