​How many people, how many hate crimes, how many look away. 


When you hear the heartbreaking stories of loss people have incurred because of hate, how do you respond? Do you look away? Do you get angry and lash out? Do you find someone ‘out there’ to blame?  Do you call for punishment or retribution for the sole purpose of revenge. 

Darkness will not be driven out by darkness, only the Light can do that. 

Hate will never drive out hate, only Love can do that.  Dr. Martin Luther King

What does this mean to you? Look at you’re own reactions, are you perpetuating hate thinking you are standing against it? Are you being ‘righteous’ with the same hatred that created a situation in the first place. 

Responding by standing for Love, means we stand up for what is right, but our intention isn’t revenge or punishment. Our intention is stop the hate from flowing through you and give it back to the person who still aligns with it so they can feel their own destruction, so they can process the damage they’ve done. 

Today, where do you stand and how do you stand for it?  You want to make a change in this world, find the hate that still resides within you, find the damage you have done ~ own up to it, just to yourself for starters ~ acknowledging where hate lives within us, accepting that we all have our fair share of lashing out (even if it’s at the car that cuts you off) and then ...... forgive yourself! Bring in some compassion~ build upon that foundation! 

We are all doing the best we can with the thoughts and beliefs that have been handed to us from generations past. The experience of we are encountering are here to heal our subconscious programming. With out awareness nothing can change, the conscious universe shows ALL of us our destructive behaviors through situations. 

Nothing changes, if nothing changes. 

Look inside, what needs to shift within you. 

We label, categorize, file, organize and judge - all to help us feel normal (or safe)

For the person who speaks with passion, seemingly uncontrollable - we deem crazy.
For the person, who speaks uncensored truth - we deem abnormal 
For the person who combines passion with uncensored truth - we medicate
For the person uncontainable - we judge, exile, shred their character and try to discredit them. We try to  trap them into the blame game, distract them from their purpose, and tempt them with hate  hoping they cave.
 
We do this just so we can feel normal.

Meanwhile, has it truly become normalized to lie? It has! Think about this for a moment - how many of your friends that you have right now, would stand by your side if you suddenly lost the ability to lie? Seriously, if every thing that came out of your mouth was uncensored, raw and true, social events would become incredibly awkward. People would avoid you like a plague and no, no you wouldn't feel like you belong .  If  you're a child, you may be diagnosed with an illness, syndrome or disease.  One of the 'symptoms of Aspergers is 'FAILURE to develop friendships' - So now, not only do you feel like you don't belong, but let's add on failure too! Greta Thunberg has recently brought Aspergers into the Light.  As I've read different stories about her and the movement surrounding her - I have been in awe as to how uncomfortable truth makes people, especially the ones who think they are in powerful positions, feel.   I also find it interesting how they are lashing out at her, and trying to discredit what she is saying by throwing labels around, trying desperately to  normalize what is happening.  Which brings me right back to my point, to feel normal, you need to lie - period.

NORMAL,:
is being different
Is owning your unique qualities - 
​is not allowing ANYONE to make you feel so ashamed of yourself that you lie.

What has become normalized, to make us believe we need to betray ourself and lie, is fear. Somewhere we have allowed fear to become our normal state of being. We have distorted our natural instinct to detect a dangerous situation.  And, now, we find most of our daily lives to be dangerous - if not, why lie?  Seriously, if you feel safe  - you wouldn't lie, not even to yourself.   And now, our bodies have become addicted to adrenaline,  we continually collect evidence we are in a dangerous situations, signaling to produce more adrenaline.  So much so, that now, the more we lie, the more dangerous it is to even speak.  You might get caught in your own web of lies! So now the mere, simple, mundane act of speaking has become a fear provoking experience.  (and feeds the addiction)

What is normal to the Spider, is chaos to the fly. 

We have become both the spider and the fly - we weave our own webs, and then feel terrified when we get caught up in it. We feel terrified to act because of webs all around us that we can get caught in. The need to label and categorize events to normalize them, doesn't serve anything except our own limiting beliefs.  These limiting beliefs make us THINK we are safe.  However, it doesn't actually help us FEEL safe.  Simply put, lies that we tell ourself actually create the exact opposite of feeling safe, even if they have become normalized.

Once you find your truth, your voice, your integrity, once you feel safe to be honest with yourself - you can recognize the webs from others and navigate the normalized traps of fear. No one said it's easy - but we are designed to do hard things!  Accept who you are designed to be, own it, live it and feel the freedom of passion supplying your service to humanity. 

May you feel safe to live your normal! 

Letting go. 

I've held tight to the story, 'When I let go, someone or something gets hurt'. That story was my way of collecting the evidence that I needed to keep control. That I was needed. If i didn't have tabs on everyone and everything, life as we knew it, would fall apart.  That certainly made me feel that I was needed.  I never really thought about the enormous amount of pressure that put me under or in.  Oddly enough, I also have lived with the thought - 'I don't do well under pressure' - interesting, to say the least.

To hear people say, 'Let it GO!' was infuriating, I hadn't a clue what it meant. To me, I thought it meant to give up, to lose, to feel loss and ultimately fail due to being weak.   So I spent most of my life griping tightly to what I knew to be true through my own experiences. I griped tightly to definitions, rules and beliefs that weren't even mine, but that I learned to believe.

Have you ever heard the expression "Let go, or be dragged?'  I read it somewhere, and remember thinking deeply about that. To add feeling to my contemplations, I had the opportunity to witness a woman, gripping tightly to a large horse's lead that became excited to get to his food. I watched (in horror) as she was dragged several yards until she released her grip on the rope. Boy did that hit home! What was she thinking? Why didn't she just let go? And then I realized, she was me. Except the rope I held was on life itself, and I was getting dragged, bumped, slammed and broken.  Why won't I let GO? So afraid to fail, to lose ~ to feel guilty, ashamed or a deep loss we call grief. 

I never put 2 and 2 together until recently. I learned that if I let go, I'd feel like a failure. I learned, if iI let go , I wasn't valuable,  I learned if I let go, I was weak. I learned if I let go, someone or something would get hurt and (another layer to that was), it was all my fault - I was to blame! I began to feel compassion for that woman - realizing if she let go, and that horse hurt someone, it was her fault, and that was a verdict of guilt she spent her life time avoiding by holding on, or thinking she was in control. That she'd rather take the beating, then have it lash out to anyone else.  She was me. If anyone in my life got hurt, physically, emotionally or mentally it was my fault. This belief kept me in a vicious cycle of doing my very best to hold on to a raging dragon that I was never meant to hold in the 1st place, yet, somehow this was the message I was taught, along with so many other people. 

We don't actually have that kind of control, we are NOT God, we are simply instruments of a Higher Will. So to keep us thinking we do have that kind of control, keeps us playing small and living in a fear.

One of my first experiences of letting go and having something wonderful happen, was when it was time to resign from my 5th grade public school teaching position.  It took an entire year of being dragged, knocked down, and bludgeoned to finally resign or let go.  That year, something would drag me and knock me down, I wouldn't think about it, I'd just get right back up. As the year progressed - my job felt like a ballon and I held then string.   I'd get knocked down, I'd lose my grip on the string and scramble to get up to grab it.  Eventually, I got to the point where I watched it float away, tears streaming down my face and asking "What do You want from me? It's gone, are You happy?' (sarcasm was how i used to communicate with Spirit, or the Divine or the Universe - however you choose to name it - something Higher and Wiser than myself) I surrendered - or let go.

As I am now aware, the Universe is always communicating with us.  So the answers to my questions came quickly. This time, because I finally let my grip go,  I was able to sense the answers the Universe was giving me.  I wasn't aware  I was listening at the time,  or that i was letting go, i just felt that something had shifted and the result of resigning didn't stop the world from turning, no-one got hurt, and I suddenly had reprieve (that I call nothing less than mercy now) so I was (and still am) amazed.

As I look back, it still amazes me that I held on for as long as I did considering how banged up I was. As i look back, i am only now beginning to recognize my own strength.

Eight years later, I continue to contemplate, consciously letting go. Then I let go because i felt like i didn't have a choice. Now, I am acutely aware that it is a choice. And fear says, 'now you know what you're doing, if something bad happens, you now know it is your fault.' and I say back, 'I don't have that kind of control -thank GOD!'

And, I can only say that courageously, when I am aware that in making a choice - I asked for God, or the Universe or Spirit to take the reins. I literally say, this is the choice I feel like I'm supposed to be making, but I really don't know because I can see how it can 'go wrong' too - so- if this is the choice that You want me to make, that will serve You, than allow all involved to be safe and protected, however, if this is a self-serving choice, catch me please. And then. . . . . I listen and watch and feel for the answers to come, for the directions to be given, for the path to open up.  

Letting go isn't weak, it takes an inner strength of faith and trust that most are unaware we can tap into.  Letting go is success, giving up is failure.  Letting go feels frightening when we don't know what's going happen. That fear creates an uncomfortable sensation that our mind would like to make comfortable.  It develops a story to explain the sensation, in essence, grasping for control. That grasping for control, the tight grip of the story, restricts the flow of an infinite supply of miraculous solutions. 

Learning to let go is a spiritual muscle that needs a daily workout. Where or what, in this moment in time, can you let go of knowing, doing or answering?  You got this - Let Go!  

 I looked at the clock at 11:11 am this morning and thought 'make a wish'! So I began searching for the perfect wish, the perfect words to articulate clearly that wish.  I began in a spiritual way - I wish to be in the infinite flow of Love - that says it all right, but then I felt it needed to be more specific. The more I grappled, the less spiritual I felt, the more I judged myself for sinking, the more emotions rose.  Emotions of heat, annoyance, regret & agitation.  I braced myself, and allowed the wave to crash, swears started spewing, my gate changed and I shifted into the part of me that I wish I didn't have.  

I wish..... I wish didn't have emotions......I wish
It's such a powerful moment, when the truth of what we feel comes out in a way that we hear it.
I heard this loud and clear.

I wish I didn't have emotions. What an odd wish to make.  What an emotional wish to make. A thought thread, buried deep in my psyche, rose today, to be healed.  No other day earlier than today to be revelaed, for so many reasons, but here it is.  

I began to realize, this blog was waiting for me, saved in the archives, unfinished.  Remembering the title, stopped me in my tracks - I was searching for a shortcut around my journey!   Eff the Journey, just get me there - I want to know, I want to feel safe, I want to be validated - Just PLEEEEEase let this ride end, let me get off this roller coaster - it's too much, it's making me sick!

Oh My! another powerful moment, another thought thread arose and was heard - "It's making sick"

What's actually making me sick? the ride?  What ride, the ride of life? of Energy in motion?
Isn't that the definition of emotion?

So, are the emotions making me sick? No, but holding on to them, bracing myself against them, blocking them, containing them, rejecting them, cursing them, hating them, wishing they didn't exist ~ does make us all sick. Especially, wishing they didn't exist. You see, that's a wish that goes through the wish maker 1st.  Wishing anything to not exist, speaks volumes because what we're really wishing for, is that we don't exist.  Wishing I didn't have emotions sent a shock through me, straight into my heart.  Having come back from a 'dis'ease' that cuts off sensation, cuts off feelings only to realize that I still wish I didn't have them hit home.  So, instead of burying this, or banishing it back to where it was hiding - I greeted this awareness with curiosity  - wondering how can I help someone today who may also have this same wish without realizing it - Because, you see, if energy stops its motion, we experience a loss, or death.  Having this wish, is a death wish.  So, when I asked myself whats actually making me sick - it's not the ride itself, but the wish to get off the ride. I also realized, it's not just me that feels this way, many many people feel this way too.  I am not alone in these thoughts ~ snapping me back to my intention, who can I help, how can I be of service today? 

Others are on this ride of life too and some seem to be making the most of it and enjoying it!  They seem to have embraced the twists and unexpected drops, flying backwards in the dark and abrupt stops. Their smile and joyful shrieks express it perfectly. They have embraced their journey, being in the present moment and accepting the unexpected. 

I, on the other hand, have lost so much & experienced grief often and brutally that I shut down. If all I feel is grief, why feel? - It makes me lash out in anger so people don't realize how much my heart hurts, interestingly enough, causing more loss and layers of grief to sift through. And yet, they say, to enjoy the warmth of summer, you must first experience the cold of winter,

So, when I say 'eff the journey' I really mean - eff the emotions I wish I didn't have - just get me through the sadness, with out feeling it,  get me through it so I can feel the joy. Why can't it work like that? Why do I have to feel each step of the way? I want it NOW! I want to know what the problem is and get through it, unemotionally. I want to get this  over & done with & move on already! I can't tell you how many times I have sat in meditation and just thought COME ON ALREADY!  come on come on come on!  I want to know and feel and have my cake and eat it too - F*** the journey  - get me there!

And yet, the 'there' IS being right here.  The journey is just to get us to 'HERE & NOW',  whether we like it or not. It's  accepting the moment in time as it's been designed so that we can FEEL it.  So that we don't need to wish, because we already have exactly what we need IN this moment. All we really have is this moment. In this present moment we get to see the blooming of our past thought seeds, accept them for just that, a past thought, and then plant a new seed for the future.  But, here, in this moment, lies the journey, the emotions. Skipping over them  (being in such a rush to get 'there') we skip the most important step, being present enough to consciously plant seeds that we intended to do while we're HERE ( and now) - 

Wishing away emotions is like getting into a car without a driver.  Wether we like it or not, our emotions create our the world we infuse our self into.    They'll take us on a ride, but only to get our attention back on our intention, again, wether we like it or not. I need now, to apologize to my emotions for wishing they didn't exist.  Most importantly, though,  I FEEL grateful for them, and honor their 'spiritualness' , that's  how I know I've been allowed forgiveness,  then and only then, will there be room for the next step of my journey reveal itself.  

I FEEL so very grateful, I was able to feel so agitated, confused and hurt today when I was asked to make a wish.  I am so very grateful that those emotions were allowed to express themselves in a constructive way that didn't shut me down, but opened my heart wider.

I FEEL another blog rising about intention! I'll add that to the queue. 

Embrace the ride, you're not actually going anywhere, but here!

We already have enough fake people in this world - we really do.
And yes, it takes one to know one. 
Putting up a facade is a way we've learned to protect ourselves. We needed to say, do and be what society expected so that we can 'look' good enough to fit in and feel like we belong.  

We've gone a bit over the edge though.  Artificial intelligence is being planted in the minds of our youth - the 3rd grade scholastic news had a picture of a humanistic robot with the title asking kids if this will be their new best friend. WHY? Why would we possibly want a best friend that has NO EMOTION - or has software to make you THINK (not feel) it does -

I do love technology when it works. I get the draw to it too  -How nice is it to be able to say a command, have it heard and then actually done. Some'thing' actually listened to me - I didn't have to repeat myself or explain why I wanted to look up a specific topic! It just did what I asked, without any questions! As a Mom, that sometimes can feel miraculous.  However, that ease creates even more frustration when actually talking to another human, resentment and competition become wrought  - we're are setting ourself up to compete with a machine. That road feels treacherous.

Seriously though ~
Have we become so afraid of emotions that we are willing to create a 'fake' person - a robot - artificial intelligence (AI) just so we can feel like we are in control - that someone is listening to us? or should i say someTHING?  Are we so afraid of feeling lonely that we are creating another layer, another level of a fake, phony & pretend people. We have enough of that already, we really do! (That statement needs repeating).  There are so many people in this world that do not know how to be authentic - don't know how to deal with emotions so they isolate themselves and say it's the rest of the world's fault that they don't fit in.  We are human, we have emotions and the emotions we wish we didn't have are prevalent in everyone.  People who can acknowledge and FEEL their emotions are authentic, real and inspirational!  Those emotions that most people have deemed to be monstrous, have emotions! Rejection knows when its being rejected, resentment knows when it's being resented and rage knows when it's being contained.  Emotions have the reins on our life, our ability to manifest and create experiences that blatantly show us how they are feeling.  They key is to listen to our emotions. It's really quite simply - our emotions just want to be acknowledged instead of rejected. They will continue to get louder if we don't acknowledge them, creating destructive situations until we learn the lesson, until we listen ( which isn't so simple)

Until then, we will feel lonely in a crowd of people - who are all pretending to be happy. That's the facade I keep saying is a fake person. However, we are suddenly creating an entire new level of fake, just so we can pretend to ourselves that we don't feel sad, or lonely, or . . .name your emotion.  The most dangerous lies are the ones, not only that we tell ourselves, but that we've told so long - we actually believe them.
 
The term fake and phony certainly gets our attention doesn't it? It triggers our grief, our anger - it brings up feelings of betrayal and abandonment.  All feelings we wish we didn't have - all feelings we've been told DON'T BELONG!  We are human and as part of this experience, we NEED to feel. Humans have basic needs to survive ~ shelter & food - anyone can watch one episode of Naked and Afraid to know we don't actually NEED clothing - although it is a comfort we've woven into society as a need. (ok ok, cold climates it IS a need) We're not taught though, that we also NEED to feel connected. That is a NEED.

Having come back from disease that cuts off feelings (MS) to now feeling so much, I get it - I do, feeling our feelings and expressing them in constructive ways puts us in vulnerable position for others to judge and shame. And yet, thats the name of the game - without being vulnerable - there's no connection, no communication, no collaboration, no creativity!  We as humans need connection to thrive, to be powerful, to stand for what we believe in.  Take away our connection to other human beings, distract us with easiness and undetected isolation and before we know it, we're living in a world that doesn't consider compassion or empathy.   THAT is  the patriarch's intention. Not masculine or men, mind you, because many woman have bought into it as well.  That may seem harsh, saying we've bought into, but saying it any other way sugar coats it in a way that may not get the message across directly.  We've bought into making life easy, comfortable and predictable. We've bought into the idea that keeping everything easy, keeps our emotions in control.  Well, thats all fine and dandy until we have an experience that triggers the shit out of one emotion and it explodes out us in the wrong place at the wrong time! Making us want to isolate even more (meanwhile other emotions are lining up - let me explode out too - yikes). 

Teaching our children that life is easy, controllable and predictable is a lie, a facade.  We only teach them this because we don't know how to deal with unpredictable & uncomfortable experiences ourselves.  Teaching them this, like we've been taught perpetuates the emotion of betrayal. You know that feeling, when you find out someone has lied to you.  We are repeating history & its getting louder - imagine when they realize life isn't easy or predictable, that shit can happen at any given moment  - imagine the rage that creates.  And then we wonder why we have an outbreak of mass shootings.  

Artificial intelligence (AI) may seem helpful, reliable and gives us an illusion of stress relief, however it's just distracting us from what we are thinking, feeling and behaving.  Distractions are the lie.  To be able to discern what is a distraction, we need to become intimately aware of our emotions - and we can only do that through staying connected in relationships (which can be uncomfortable and unpredictable).  The exact opposite of  AI.

Stay connected, get uncomfortable and LIVE a life full of energy in motion - the definition of emotion.  

My original intention about shame, was to drag it out into the open, out of isolation, blasting it with Light and Love. Ha! Not sure if you heard the irony in that last sentence, but dragging anything out in the open is not done with the intention of Love ~ Light, yes, but Light without Love is simple judgment.

How many of us want to be dragged onto a stage where we already know we're being brutally judged.  Willingly walking on that same stage takes a courage that many of us don't realize we do indeed have, but being dragged means your not willing.  And, when we're not willing that is breeding ground for resentment. So, instead of adding  resentment on top of shame & wonder why it didn't work, I invite you read how i approach shame differently now, and also invite you to try something different in your life today.

My 'something different' consists of getting to know an energy that triggers me and/or scares me.  Instead of running away, or containing or rejecting it - i turn to face it now.  This letter is just one way i work with an energy that seems unapproachable inside.

Hello Shame, I have a new intention. 
Thank you for allowing me to explain. I've realized you are an energy, just like I am, just like we all are - we are made of energy. You, being an energy that I believed was MINE, was ME, I didn't know I had a choice to have you in my life.  So, unconsciously of course,  I blamed you for making me feel like i was something that didn't belong in this world when really it was my own limiting belief.  Instead of talking to you and finding out this truth, I admit, I avoided talking to you for a very long time. I personally know what it feels like to be avoided - not such a loving feeling is it? Thank you for teaching me that the Law of Cause and Affect, aka karma, really does start inside.  You helped me stay hidden, unseen and therefore I felt that false sense of security.

(Some energies are a low vibration. We've been taught (I've been taught) that low vibrations are 'not good'.   And yet, radio waves are a low vibration that carry our voice, our messages and connect us over distances that otherwise,  higher vibrations (or frequencies) would have blown out.  And, in music, it's the low vibrations that gives depth to a song creating harmony.

Dear Shame,
I have misjudged you and i'm so sorry, please forgive me, thank you and I do now accept that you do have a purpose in this world and in my life.  You are a deep vibration. You add depth and character to me and people who chose to meet with you, speak with you and learn from you.  I'm also sorry that my original intention was to 'drag' you out into the open.  I have learned you are shy and if i am forceful, you know how to make a situation explode, creating more shame.  I have learned that if I continue to drag you out, just to humiliate you with the idea that you'll go away - the simple laws of cause and affect kick in - and all i'm really doing is dragging myself into situations that are shameful.  If I continue to do that, what i really need to look at isn't you, shame - it's why I feel I need you in my life.  It seems to me, now that I've talked to you, that I only create more shameful situations to hide the one I asked you to keep a strong hold on in the first place. 

I've also spent the time to look back at where this belief came from, to realized that other people, just like me, didn't know how that deal with, or handle you, shame, in our life.  The way I was taught to deal with something uncomfortable was to distract others by showing them you, shame, in their life.  This way, they'd be so distracted trying to cover up and explain you, shame, away, they wouldn't see that you, shame, are in my life as well and judge me. I wouldn't have to feel what made me feel so ashamed in the first place. I could keep that isolated, contained and avoided.  But here's the thing - doing that to you, shame, back fired and i ended up isolating, containing and avoiding myself.

That took me awhile to get to my new intention, but here it is:  Shame, i intend to let you go. Although that may mean that what I asked you to contain will come out, i am willing to face the judgments of others, knowing that the only reason they judge me, is because they are simply trying to distract me from seeing (sensing) that there is something in their life, that they hate themselves for and blame it on shame. I Am willing to hold space, showing us a way to accept ourself - for where there is acceptance, not judgment, there is Divine Love.  

Are you willing to speak to your shame, releasing it's strong hold on you so that you can receive the gift of Love in your life? I may not be ready, but I am wiling.

When it came to sexual abuse ~ women rose together and #metoo was born. It felt powerful and it was . Men in  'powerful' positions were threatened ~ some even came crashing down.

"A woman feels her power when her voice is being heard" Karen Drucker

How can we shut women's voice's down?  How can we take their power? What are they so ashamed of, they won't ban together, numbering in the millions? Abortion.

One out of four woman - 1 out of 4 women have had an abortion!  Brené Brown researches shame - she found that secrecy and silence keep shame thriving. Meaning, the more we talk openly about abortion, the shame factor can lessen. But boy, shame tempts us to keep silent. While we sit in silence, men in powerful positions are taking advantage of our silence, they're taking advantage of the shame we feel and manipulating it to breed more shame!

Wether or not you had to face this choice, someone you know, sits in silence, in shame. For the women who have had to face this choice, my heart goes out to you. No one can explain the complexity a woman goes through before she makes a choice to abort. And, for the women who have faced this choice and kept the baby - that was designed for you as well, not to swell into pride and righteousness, but to realize that, at the very least, you had the freedom to make a safe choice. Not just for the fetus, but for the mom and for life after birth. 

Pro-life isn't just about a fetus, it's about everyone's LIFE involved.   It's about being able to make a choice that was designed for you to make. That your life, and voice and choice matter, that you are free to make that choice! Pro-Life is Prochoice!

Confusion is so confusing!
It can absolutely consume your mind and freeze forward progress. Have you ever needed to make a decision, but both sides of the coin made sense? What do you normally do when you feel confused about a situation. Many times people ask the opinion of someone they look up to and trust, or maybe take a survey trying to get the pulse of the situation.  And, how many people, after they ask that trusted friend or mentor, take their advice? Meanwhile they find   find out later that their own original response to this situation was right all along and now they have to dig themselves out a mess that they were led into. 

Why do we do that to ourself?

I personally wasn't taught as a child to trust myself.  The adults knew best and they were always right, even if they weren't.  The child becomes the adult, and now that adult doesn't trust or even believe in them self. So much so that they begin to collect evidence to prove that they shouldn't trust their gut  ~ this is the vicious cycle of self sabotage, (wether we're aware of it or not.)  Awareness, hopefully, eventually comes in with hind sight. After taking people's advice over and over and over again, just to regret it later, somewhere we begin to wonder why we keep failing or why people keep steering us in the 'wrong' direction. When we decide to not make a decision, we've actually made the choice (or decided) to give our power away.  It's time to own our personal power!

HOW? How do you find the confidence to do just that? How do you make a decision, follow it through and  not regret it - because let's face it - it's so much easier to blame someone else, to get mad at them - "I took your advice, but you were wrong'! instead of make a choice for ourself.  What happens if it goes wrong - the only person to blame is yourself, talk about a vicious cycle! We haven't been taught to own (or be responsible for) our choices.  However the BLAME game destroys our confidence, the blame game simply distracts us from our own uncomfortable emotions.

Of course, there are also those people who have the weight of the world on their shoulders & they always have advice for people. They blame themselves for someone else failing, are told it's their fault and they end up becoming  consumed by trying to prove their advice to be worthy. Meanwhile, that's just it - those are the people who feel worthless. But, that's another day, another blog. 

I also wasn't taught the power of prayer or that I was good enough to receive help from powerful beings, like angels or Ascended Masters.  I have learned how to take a confusing choice - you know the one, you can see both outcomes and but don't know what to do OR you do know,  but that choice scares the life out of you. One way, I make big choices is by including a request (some may call it a prayer) to a power much Higher and Wiser than myself - and it goes a little like this:

Dear (insert Word -Universe, God, Spirit), 
I am about to do something I have never done before and leap on (insert opportunity). However, not only does it scare me, I can some some potential disappointment and disaster if I'm wrong. So, if this choice will cause harm, disappointment or loss, please catch me. However, if this choice truly is for the Best for all involved, then I thank You  for Your wings to help me Soar. So be it! (or Amen)

Then, watch and listen - are you meeting a ton of resistance? Has the choice suddenly become extremely dramatic or difficult? Or, are doors opening and things are going smoothly?  
So, 
​Did you find yourself in the Universe's Netting, or were you given wings. Either way -  feel grateful, you've done something different- you've trusted in yourself and asked advice from Someone or thing that actually knows where and how to guide you. 

May the choice you make empower you, build your confidence in your partnership with the Divine and help humanity! 

Happy Valentine's Day!
Today we super focus on love, having a love, sharing love, giving things to show our love. We give roses and chocolates and cards because thats what we're supposed to do, right? If that works for you, then go for it! If today is a day you remember to show someone you care, then do it.  

I've read quotes and blogs where people complain, i want flowers  on a random day because you care and not because you have to. Complaining only perpetuates lack, not good enough and entitlement.  Shift your perspective - at the very least, if you received something, whether or not the giver 'had' to, you still received something, you still have someone in your life that thought of you.  When we complain, a token of caring wasn't good enough, you're simply setting yourself up to 'get' more things that make you feel under-appreciated.  And, that sends the giver a message that they aren't good enough either.  Yikes! what a vicious cycle that can be.  On a day were we are so focused on love, it seems to create more disappointments and bitterness.  Too much sugar in our system literally overloads our pancreas and what was meant to be sweet turns bitter.

Here are some tips to enjoy the sweetness of life and receive love:
1. Appreciation goes a long way. You know yourself, when you feel appreciated you are more willing to go the extra mile.  Appreciation breeds love, our heart swells and our smile radiates out to the world. If you aren't feeling appreciated - try appreciating some one or something that you over look most days. Try appreciating someone that is a such a constant in your life, that you tend to forget to tell them how much they mean to you. Show appreciation, not because you want it back, but because you can. It automatically goes through you first! The more you show appreciation, the more you will feel appreciated. It's an inside job anyway - if you appreciate yourself, you automatically begin to attract people and circumstances that appreciate you as well. And, today is a good reminder to do just that. So, if you plan on giving someone a gift today, fill it with true appreciation first. Wether or not the intended recipient can accept the gift of appreciation is on them, not you, because YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!

2. Compassion. Compassion comes when you see someone doing something that you've done yourself.  Today, a day focused on love - where's the compassion. To me, love and compassion go hand in hand. Compassion is a sense of caring for someone who hasn't quiet learned lesson that you have, and instead of judging them to be ignorant, you feel for them because you remember when you learned the hard way.  On a day focused on love, infuse compassion, understanding and patience into your experiences.  Give the gift of compassion. Maybe you give that gift to yourself first by being gentle on yourself - you're doing the best you can. Pause before you grumble today. Look through someones else's eyes, see their point of view - wether or not you agree with their point of view isn't the point. It's agreeing to disagree respectfully, full of compassion.  
The gift of compassion lasts a lot longer than a box of chocolates. 

On a day we are so focused on love, remember, love is all around you and if you can receive it and allow it to flow through you,  you just became the gift of Love so many people are searching for.  

May your day be full of Appreciation and Compassion & may you receive Love and allow it to flow through you.  Happy Valentine's day