We already have enough fake people in this world - we really do.
And yes, it takes one to know one.
Putting up a facade is a way we've learned to protect ourselves. We needed to say, do and be what society expected so that we can 'look' good enough to fit in and feel like we belong.
We've gone a bit over the edge though. Artificial intelligence is being planted in the minds of our youth - the 3rd grade scholastic news had a picture of a humanistic robot with the title asking kids if this will be their new best friend. WHY? Why would we possibly want a best friend that has NO EMOTION - or has software to make you THINK (not feel) it does -
I do love technology when it works. I get the draw to it too -How nice is it to be able to say a command, have it heard and then actually done. Some'thing' actually listened to me - I didn't have to repeat myself or explain why I wanted to look up a specific topic! It just did what I asked, without any questions! As a Mom, that sometimes can feel miraculous. However, that ease creates even more frustration when actually talking to another human, resentment and competition become wrought - we're are setting ourself up to compete with a machine. That road feels treacherous.
Seriously though ~
Have we become so afraid of emotions that we are willing to create a 'fake' person - a robot - artificial intelligence (AI) just so we can feel like we are in control - that someone is listening to us? or should i say someTHING? Are we so afraid of feeling lonely that we are creating another layer, another level of a fake, phony & pretend people. We have enough of that already, we really do! (That statement needs repeating). There are so many people in this world that do not know how to be authentic - don't know how to deal with emotions so they isolate themselves and say it's the rest of the world's fault that they don't fit in. We are human, we have emotions and the emotions we wish we didn't have are prevalent in everyone. People who can acknowledge and FEEL their emotions are authentic, real and inspirational! Those emotions that most people have deemed to be monstrous, have emotions! Rejection knows when its being rejected, resentment knows when it's being resented and rage knows when it's being contained. Emotions have the reins on our life, our ability to manifest and create experiences that blatantly show us how they are feeling. They key is to listen to our emotions. It's really quite simply - our emotions just want to be acknowledged instead of rejected. They will continue to get louder if we don't acknowledge them, creating destructive situations until we learn the lesson, until we listen ( which isn't so simple)
Until then, we will feel lonely in a crowd of people - who are all pretending to be happy. That's the facade I keep saying is a fake person. However, we are suddenly creating an entire new level of fake, just so we can pretend to ourselves that we don't feel sad, or lonely, or . . .name your emotion. The most dangerous lies are the ones, not only that we tell ourselves, but that we've told so long - we actually believe them.
The term fake and phony certainly gets our attention doesn't it? It triggers our grief, our anger - it brings up feelings of betrayal and abandonment. All feelings we wish we didn't have - all feelings we've been told DON'T BELONG! We are human and as part of this experience, we NEED to feel. Humans have basic needs to survive ~ shelter & food - anyone can watch one episode of Naked and Afraid to know we don't actually NEED clothing - although it is a comfort we've woven into society as a need. (ok ok, cold climates it IS a need) We're not taught though, that we also NEED to feel connected. That is a NEED.
Having come back from disease that cuts off feelings (MS) to now feeling so much, I get it - I do, feeling our feelings and expressing them in constructive ways puts us in vulnerable position for others to judge and shame. And yet, thats the name of the game - without being vulnerable - there's no connection, no communication, no collaboration, no creativity! We as humans need connection to thrive, to be powerful, to stand for what we believe in. Take away our connection to other human beings, distract us with easiness and undetected isolation and before we know it, we're living in a world that doesn't consider compassion or empathy. THAT is the patriarch's intention. Not masculine or men, mind you, because many woman have bought into it as well. That may seem harsh, saying we've bought into, but saying it any other way sugar coats it in a way that may not get the message across directly. We've bought into making life easy, comfortable and predictable. We've bought into the idea that keeping everything easy, keeps our emotions in control. Well, thats all fine and dandy until we have an experience that triggers the shit out of one emotion and it explodes out us in the wrong place at the wrong time! Making us want to isolate even more (meanwhile other emotions are lining up - let me explode out too - yikes).
Teaching our children that life is easy, controllable and predictable is a lie, a facade. We only teach them this because we don't know how to deal with unpredictable & uncomfortable experiences ourselves. Teaching them this, like we've been taught perpetuates the emotion of betrayal. You know that feeling, when you find out someone has lied to you. We are repeating history & its getting louder - imagine when they realize life isn't easy or predictable, that shit can happen at any given moment - imagine the rage that creates. And then we wonder why we have an outbreak of mass shootings.
Artificial intelligence (AI) may seem helpful, reliable and gives us an illusion of stress relief, however it's just distracting us from what we are thinking, feeling and behaving. Distractions are the lie. To be able to discern what is a distraction, we need to become intimately aware of our emotions - and we can only do that through staying connected in relationships (which can be uncomfortable and unpredictable). The exact opposite of AI.
Stay connected, get uncomfortable and LIVE a life full of energy in motion - the definition of emotion.